There’s an energy … when you hold me… When you touch me… It’s so powerful…Lala…this song by Major Lazer gives me goose bumps every time I hear this song there is a different feel altogether and certainly I can connect this song with Tantric sex. Though probably many of us associate Tantric sex with unbridled sexuality, day-long lovemaking sessions, incense, and flowing robes but that is not exactly what Tantric sex is!
The thumb rule is the creation of sexual energy, which means celibacy for as long as you and your partner can stand it. You know that feeling when you’re super horny and you can’t really do anything about it? That’s how you’re going to feel. Masturbation is allowed, as long as you don’t come. You are allowed to get close to climax, but penetration is not advised and orgasms are off limits. Tantric sex is part of Tantra, an ancient Indian tradition and Tantric practices assist in quieting the mind and activating sexual energy, directing it throughout the body to bring greater sense of well-being and higher states of consciousness, think of this as intimate, clothing-optional yoga with your partner that often leads to sex. Glimpse brings to you the guide on how to go for it for the first time practise.
Design the space
The first step in getting ready for a Tantric sex session is creating a “sacred space”, decorate it with flowers, candles and cozy fabrics. Scent is really important for our sensuality, so try natural oils like jasmine, ylang-ylang, or rose. Put on some light music that you both like, it is better to play soft music in the background as it will help in enhancing your mood.
Both should take a bubble bath for cleansing purpose and the good part is that it also helps in relaxing your body and mind. If many of you are not aware , this is the one reason that people indulge in a morning bath before praying to the almighty as it relaxes your mind and you can connect spiritually well.
If you can keep your body relaxed and your mind clear of the mundane, your “inner goddess” can be fully present. Sit down cross legged facing each other and close your eyes. Breathe deeply – simply be together in silence until all the worries of the day are gone. Using your breath you can spread orgasmic energy from your genitals through your entire body. This all-over tingling, in turn, leads to a more intimate connection with your partner.
Slow things down
Tantra is all about the journey, not the destination. Have patience with yourself and with your partner, and really take the time to explore each other and what feels good. Try touching each other, and understanding that everything is more about pleasure first, and then the orgasm comes after.
Giving and receiving.
Start with kisses. Take this time to explore each other’s mouths with your tongues. Give yourself over to the active role. Put your all into giving into your partner. When you are receiving, surrender to the experience and relax your mind and body.
Don’t give up
If you don’t last beyond 10 minutes, try again. Tantric sex takes time to get to grips with because we’re all used to sex in a western way – this means we expect sex to have an obvious start, middle and end.
Tantric sex exercises
These exercises can help you get a hang of Tantra:
Facing each other, sit in his lap.
Wrap your arms as tightly around one another and press your body against each other. This kind of skin contact promotes greater feelings of intimacy.
Ensure you move and breathe slowly during sex
It can help to avoid any position that you know makes you orgasm easily) and work towards a gradual build-up of pleasure. The more slowly you can allow your feelings and sensations to build up, the more intense your eventual orgasm will be. If you decide not to engage in sex, lay in each other’s embrace and share your feelings with one another.
Bidding farewell to sexual energies
Physical union of humans is sacred and similar to the union of the force of heaven with the power of the earth. As you sit facing each other, touch each other at the knees. Place your right palms up on each other’s left knee. Feel the connection, and allow it to fade. Gently, let go of the physical connection and draw yourselves apart. Close your eyes and sit in your own space. Open your eyes when both of you are ready and thank each other for what you have shared.
Three tantric sex positions:
Put your partner in the lotus position with his legs crossed and his heels atop the opposite knee. Face him, get in his lap and mount him with your legs wrapped securely around his waist. Rock your pelvis back, focusing on your breath. Your man should mirror your movements.
With your partner kneeling behind you and leaning slightly backwards, kneel in front of him with your legs between his. Squeeze your bodies together and move up and down. Encourage him to wrap his arms around your waist and let his hands explore your body.
Sit your man down with his legs crossed. Face him and straddle his legs by lowering yourself into his lap. Wrap your legs around him and hold on tight. Rock back and forth together, increases your speed until climax.
Blurb: Take your time! Tantra is not a chase to an orgasm – it’s a feast of pleasure, and as long as you’re both experiencing plenty of it, you’re on the right track!